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ONTROL YOUR AGER
Then you will be able to respond rather than react – be assertive rather than aggressive – know when to stand up for yourself and when to step back.
Instead of thinking of the situation, think of your own stage.
Expression: When you find yourself questioning the things that are happening in your life, ask yourself if your own stage is good. The situation might be bad, but check if your own stage is good and if you have the power to face the situation.
Experience: The reason for losing the stage in a negative situation is because of negative thoughts. In order to finish such negative thoughts, remind yourself that you are learning from the things that are happening so that you can improve your own stage.